Have you been wanting to spice things up a little at home? Bring some excitement back to your relationship? The thing is, when you shack up with your man, a few things change. For one, you start to get really used to each other. You are the constant in each other’s lives.
When something becomes constant, like the hum of the refrigerator, you notice it less. That’s good for your brain because it frees up mental space, but it also means you can get emotionally desensitized over time. But I know you want to keep things fresh and exciting with your partner.
When you set out to surprise your man, make sure your motivation comes from a place of pure desire and genuine mischief, NOT insecurity, or fear of him losing interest. Stay confident and naughty—that’s what makes a surprise sexy.
Surprise Gifts
The easiest way to surprise your partner is to do the unexpected. My number one recommendation is to think about one of your secret fantasies. You know—the ones you are afraid to admit. Although these are your private thoughts, you owe it to your partner to share with them. More often than not, they’ll be more than excited to indulge you.
So, throw caution to the wind and buy your man something special that you can use together. A surprise trip to an adult store together could be just the spark you both need to get things going. Cook a gourmet meal for him, complete with dessert to be enjoyed in the bedroom. Let your mind be free and your inner woman come out to really shock and awe your guy.
Tell Him What You Want
If you’re like most women, you need to let go of the fear of asking for what you want in bed. It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking your man doesn’t want to do something just because he doesn’t initiate. But realize that most men are waiting for your cue—they don’t want to freak you out.
Don’t be afraid to say what you want to say without fear of what they might think. He won’t think you’re a freak! He’ll be thrilled to meet your request. And if it feels weird to ask, don’t worry, once the two of you establish the green light with those acts, you probably won’t have to ask again.
Dirty Little Secrets…
Want to know how you can shock your man and make him instantly ready to go? Plan a dirty secret. Imagine his face when you’re getting intimate and he sees you wearing something new underneath your clothes. Or while cooking dinner you whisper what you’d like to do to him.
These things will drive him absolutely wild. It tells him that sex is on your mind and that you’re feeling naughty and adventurous. Plus, the dirty secret will inevitably result in longer lasting sex, since you get a nice long warmup. Surprises keep you and your partner feeling new to each other, even when you live together. It takes some effort and creative thinking, but I think you will absolutely adore the whole process. Get ready to play out your secret fantasies and take your sex life to the next level. You’ll be glad you did.