We all have difficult periods in our life. For a variety of reasons too, and by that theory, so do our friends. And often we don’t even realise it.
Many friendships don’t involve discussing our feelings, despite us all wanting the best for each other. And in this day and age, where mental health problems such as anxiety and depression are at an all-time high, as well as addiction being hugely prominent, there’s every chance someone could be struggling.
In more recent times, we have gotten more used to speaking out about our struggles, but what should you do as a friend to help them through difficult times?
Just be there
Of course, the first thing is just by being there. Your company without any expectation, any distraction can mean more than anything. Reverend Connie L. Habash, says in her book Awakening From Anxiety, “Many people don’t take the time to simply be present with each other, even if it’s just washing dishes together, taking a walk, or hanging out on the couch.”
It will ensure your friend feels valued and loved, while they also know that you are there to listen if your friend wants to talk about how they are feeling and struggling.
Take the time to do some research
While you shouldn’t force anything on your friend, doing your research around their problem will give you a solid foundation for discussion should they want to talk or you feel they are at a point where you need to step in.
For example, if a friend is suffering from alcohol addiction, then doing research around alcohol home detox or in rehabilitation, as well as treatment centres, various methods of treatment and recovery, you’ll be fully equipped to aid your friend and provide them with the platform they need to get help.
Avoid the cliches
We can often make the mistake of providing our friends with the same old cliches when they are suffering. It can be difficult to know what to say, but do avoid them. After all, nobody really wants to hear “plenty more fish in the sea” after a break up, or “it’s going to be ok”. They aren’t really helpful.
It can often be better to say “I don’t know what to say”. Just listening can be the best thing to do, as they simply might be looking for someone to do that.
Help with day-to-day stuff
When friends are dealing with a crisis, it can be very easy to start falling behind with things like chores. For a period of time, offer to help with that, whether it be running out to the shops, doing a bit of cooking or putting a load of washing on.
It’ll help relieve any stress that is building up about those things, and is also a good way of showing that you are there for them and you do care about them.