Living with someone is not the easiest thing in the world and while most couples manage to keep an even keel, familiarity does take the edge off the sex side of the relationship. Communication is important in every relationship and you should be able to discuss your sex life with a view to making some improvements. It is perfectly normal for the sexual side of a relationship to degrade and both parties should recognise this and work together to get back to where you once were.
Here are a few ideas to spice things up in the bedroom.
- Explore your fantasies – If you can’t tell your partner that you like the idea of bondage, there is definitely a communication issue; you need to review how you both interact and find a way to help your partner understand your needs. You might like the idea of introducing a third party into the bedroom, or you would like to make out in an outdoor environment, if you don’t tell your partner, nothing will change.
- Change of environment – There’s nothing like a weekend away to get things going sex-wise; start looking at last-minute getaways and take the lead by booking without asking your partner. Tell her you are going to take her on a mystery journey and make sure there’s chilled champagne in the cooler when you arrive. If you normally have sex in the bedroom, try the lounge; watch a movie and open a bottle of wine, be a little adventurous and take the lead.
- Sex toys – Check out the wide range of sex toys at the online supplier’s website, with discreet packaging and a good returns policy. You know your partner better than anyone, so take a chance and invest in things that will turn them on. This would make for a nice surprise, add to that a weekend away somewhere romantic and that might ignite your passion.
- Spend time apart – Familiarity breeds contempt, or so they say; if you aren’t living together, take a solo holiday, even a couple of weeks would see the return of those early days when you couldn’t keep your hands off each other. This can also be a good relationship test; if you feel that things are not going well, don’t see him or her for a while and see what response is forthcoming.
- Phone sex – If you have yet to try talking sex on the phone with your partner, ask them if they remember a certain private moment you both shared, which will probably be a bit of a shock if there is no lead up to the topic. Some people simply aren’t into getting horny on the phone, however, if you are in a distance relationship, Zoom is the next best option to being together and some mutual masturbation is just the thing!
Many couples rekindle their sex life with sex toys and you can both sit down and surf the web, browsing adult sites and ordering a few things. Nothing ventured, nothing gained and experimenting is always a good way to boost things in the bedroom.