In the past, being a nice guy was considered a good thing. The nice guys were the ones everyone wanted on their side and in their corner. They were the ones everyone wanted working for them, and they were the ones every woman dreamed of being with one day. But these days, the term “nice guy” has a whole other meaning attached to it.
In fact, nice guy syndrome is totally a thing, and it’s something even a wealthy sugar daddies can be prone to. Here’s a closer look at what nice guy syndrome is, why it’s an issue, and how you can tell if you’re the type of sugar daddy who may have related issues to overcome.
What Is Nice Guy Syndrome?
It’s not that it’s a bad thing to be nice. Being nice is a great thing because genuinely nice people are the type of people others like to be around. But a guy dealing with “nice guy syndrome” is nice to a fault on a level that really doesn’t serve him or anyone else.
He may also be nice in a way that’s… actually not so nice. Here are some examples of behaviors to be aware of. Nice guys tend to:
- Call themselves nice guys, as well as constantly remind others how “nice” they are
- Handle rejection extremely badly, take it personally, and put down anyone who rejects them for any reason
- Think women owe them whatever they want just by virtue of being nice – especially sex or relationships
- Be manipulative and use associated tactics to get what they want from others
- Think basic decency should be the only thing they need to bring to the table when it comes to their relationships with others
How Can You Overcome Nice Guy Syndrome?
The reason most sugar daddies who struggle with nice guy syndrome want to overcome it isn’t because there’s anything inherently wrong with being nice. It’s because “nice guys” of this variety wind up stuck in the friend zone instead of in happy, mutually rewarding relationships with the sugar babies of their dreams. Here are some strategies for turning things around.
Unpack how you fit the “nice guy” stereotype
Once you’ve done your homework on what makes a particular sugar daddy a “nice guy” and what doesn’t, it’s time to be honest with yourself regarding how you might fit that mold. This is especially the case when it comes to traits and hang-ups that might be keeping you from succeeding with women the way you want.
Learn to say no more often
If you’re like most sugar daddies, you’re already super successful and have it all together when it comes to certain aspects of your life. But others may be more of a challenge – especially regarding women. Nice guys often find themselves falling all over women and failing to maintain proper boundaries in the hopes that maybe one of them will pick him. No woman wants that. So get comfortable setting limits and saying “no” more often.
Step out of your comfort zone
High-value sugar babies want more than just a fat pocketbook in the sugar daddies they date. They want men who are confident, have a sense of adventure, and make them feel safe and secure. So it’s time to change things up and step out of your comfort zone more often. Embrace doing things differently and exploring things you wouldn’t normally do. It’s good for you and your love life.
Let women have their space
It’s great to show interest in a sugar baby you want to get closer to. But nice guys tend to drastically overdo things at the risk of completely smothering the women they date. Sugar babies want and need breathing space just as surely as you do, so it’s OK (and even desirable) for a sugar daddy to play a little hard to get.
Nix the neediness
No woman likes a needy guy, but sugar babies are less tolerant of that than most. Sugar babies like to be spoiled and to feel taken care of in their relationships. A man who’s constantly clinging to her and desperate for her approval doesn’t inspire the sense of security and safety she needs. So show her that you have your own life and can self-soothe. She wants a man, not a son.
Nice guys do exactly what people expect pretty much all the time, because they’re terrified of not being liked or agreed with. They never challenge or surprise anyone, including themselves. So an essential part of overcoming nice guy syndrome is overcoming this tendency, as well.
Yes, you should be a man of your word. But beyond that, try not to be so predictable. Challenge yourself, and don’t be afraid to surprise people. You’ll be glad you did.