Groom More involved in Wedding prep
How to get the Groom More involved in Wedding prep

How to get the Groom More involved in Wedding prep

If the thought of your fiancé organizing a wedding fills you with a nightmarish image of red Solo cups, a boombox resurrected from his parent’s basement, a tiny overworked BBQ, and guests in their Sunday best wondering what cornhole has to do with anything, don’t worry.

You’re still in charge of planning.

But you’ve got a lot to take care of, and your big day is his big day too.

We’ve come up with some great ways to get your groom more involved. These come with the added benefit of relieving you of the burden of having to tackle some of the less pleasant tasks.

Think of it this way. It’s the perfect opportunity to learn to work together as a team, and showcase some of each of your tastes and talents. Because chances are, there are things on your list that he may either be better at, or find more enjoyable to do.

Unite

You may have been planning your wedding for a while. Maybe even before you met your husband-to-be.  Now’s the time to sit down with your fiancé, and go over the details of what your vision is. Listen to their input, too. As you go through this process, remember compromise is key.

Once you’ve agreed on the basics like size, budget, date and potential locations, you’re ready to start ticking off the other items on your list.

Ask your groom if there’s anything they would specifically like to be involved in, such as cake tasting, selecting the perfect wedding DJ or live band, or helping you narrow down the colors and aesthetic for your big day. (hint: most people are visual. If you say, “I would love the bridesmaid dresses to be burnt orange,” people’s brains will likely not do your idea an ounce of justice. Show them these stunning ideas, and they’ll see exactly what you mean.)

Make note of the decisions he wants to take part in, so when it comes to scheduling those, it’s done when he’s available as well.

Delegate

What about the things you don’t particularly want to deal with, like registering for a wedding website? If your love is tech savvy, handing them the reins (and likely some guidelines, too) letting them put together the site that links to your special day, is a huge help.

If they’re especially passionate about something that’s relevant to a wedding, such as food and wine pairings, all things music, or cinematography and photography – by all means. Let them take the lead. Let them nerd out narrowing it down to the top contenders, and you can help with the final selections.

When you delegate something to someone else, it’s helpful to have a date they need to have it done by. This is especially important if your wedding day is fast approaching!

Communicate

Wedding planning is fun, but it can also be overwhelming and stressful. Especially when the everyday stressors of regular life are front and center for you to deal with as well.

If you’re feeling depleted, worried, or stretched to the limit, let your fiancé know. Take a moment to brainstorm together: what are you worried about?

How can he help?

Is there anything that he can do to take some of the pressure off?

Sometimes, just being able to vent to someone else is enough.

Perhaps your fiancé needs to vent about something as well.

Resentment is likely to appear if one person feels like they’re doing all the work, or taking on much more of the stress load. Resentment isn’t pleasant, and communication is the best way to scare it off.

Create

Traditionally, it’s the bride who’s tasked with all the planning, but as we all know, tradition isn’t always rooted in what’s best. 

Your fiancé is going to be there with you – they’re the costar of your big day – and you want to do everything to make sure they’re equally represented. A wedding that incorporates the best of both of your personalities, both of your passions and taste is a beautiful thing, a fusion of two individuals who have chosen each other. Out of everyone else in the world.

Your wedding is the start of a beautiful collaboration created when the two of you unite. It’s the start of a life and family together.

Begin on the right foot now, by creating something together. Something that’s infinitely better because the two of you are involved.

Conclusion:

You may be surprised at how helpful your fiancé is, and perhaps even more surprised by the caliber of what the two of you are capable of pulling off, when you work together.