A spark, then a wildfire. That’s how plenty of love stories begin and they end in marriage. Unfortunately, after being married for a while, the novelty wears off, and the fire fizzles out. The only proof that there was ever a fire in the first place is the ash cold hearth.
Marriages don’t have to be like that. You can keep the fire of your marriage sizzling and burning by practicing the following:
Go on Dates
Who says it has to be on Valentine’s Day, birthdays, or other universal days for you to go out with your significant other? Book a reservation, get dressed up and leave the house. It could be the beach, a hotel, or a restaurant. Studies have shown that going on dates with your partner is correlated with higher levels of closeness and overall relationship satisfaction due to providing bonding experiences with your partner.
Spice up things in the bedroom.
Don’t be stale or boring because you are married. Spice things up sexually. It could be with changing your sex styles or using sex toys. Or maybe you have been married for a long time and are not as energetic as you used to be, you can spend more time in foreplay – touch, feel, rub. If you enjoy an active physical connection already with your partner, consider things like fantasy play and introducing adult products into the bedroom to create an unforgettable experience.
Flirt as if you were single
Flirting is about displaying your entire interest and engagement in the other person, which means that non-sexual activities are important as well. Consider surprise flowers, candy, date nights, spontaneous getaways, and a spa day as examples of unexpected acts of love. You can also be all touchy. Steal a kiss now and then.
Help Out
Take some responsibilities off your partner’s plate if they appear to be worried or have a lot on their plate. These kinds of actions can help you stay emotionally connected, which is one of the most important components of passion in a long-term relationship.
Leave notes where your partner can find them
At some point in our life, most of us have passed notes or witnessed notes being passed amongst school crushes in class. Of course, over the years, notes have given way to texts and social media DMs. But you can use this ancient method to keep things sizzling. After all, old wine is sweeter. Try placing love notes all over the house for your partner to find. This activity will benefit both of you because you will have to come up with creative ways to say things that will make them grin. The notes may not always be sensual, they can be an appreciation message, but you best believe they have the same effect.
Give gifts
Many people in partnerships believe that to communicate their love, presents must be lavish and costly. But no. Simple gifts can go a long way in communicating your feelings and fanning an already dying ember.
Don’t stop talking
This is the oldest clue in the book perhaps. Keep communicating. Always talk.
Wrap Up
Your love does not need to go stale because you got married. Marriage gives you the leverage to keep making love forever. Keep your fire burning, always.